Take it easy

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Dear Life,

From whatever I’ve known and experienced so far, I’ve been fortunate to have a happy and positive Life with very little to complain about. You have shown me some extra ordinary times, and then you’ve made sure I see them terrible ones too. You’ve made me realize the importance of simple and predominant things like family, education and spirituality; yet your teachings have also carefully taught me how loved ones, text books and faith can fail me. Through personal experiences, you’ve made me cognizant of how powerful the mind and the heart is, but through others you’ve even shown me how sharp and equally powerful the tongue or even a pen can be.

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Like many people, in my case too I’ve often complained how the grass has been greener on the other side. Looks, talent, study ranks, income etc, constant comparison with others did bring me down. But with time I’ve accepted that the grass is green where it is watered. Today I feel much more at ease with exactly those same points I cribbed about. Today I know that more than these or the “oh-so-tempting- materialistic things” , it’s virtues like patience, calmness, integrity, and overall humanity that will make me a better person.

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I can’t thank you enough for introducing me to some wonderful people along the path, people that live by example, people whom I look up to, people whom I can relate to. On the other hand , you’ve also taken away some of my very own , people who meant the world to me, people whom I called good friends, people who I connected with, thereby making me cherish the people I’m left with even more. You’ve made me believe in the Universe, and believe that whoever is meant to be in my life, will be in it anyway.

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Thank you for teaching me in your own unique ways to not be dependent on anyone or anything. For teaching me that life in fact does go on, even after I lose my most precious people/ things. I’m proud of how easily I’ve given up habits I never thought I would. It showed me that with the right amount of determination, I could have strong will power.
I’m so grateful that you’ve made me a person with an extremely high level of tolerance, sometimes it amazes me to think of how composed I was in the most stressful situations. While I’m at it, I need to Thank you for making me passionate about Music, Travel and of course Blogging. They all have this magical calming effect on me. They help divert my mind and give me some amount of strength.

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I truly hope as we continue our journey ahead, you continue to be kind to me. Phases get difficult and stressful at times, and there are those days when I feel like nothing good is happening. Take me through it successfully without letting me give up or break down. Lets be as relaxed as possible , and focus on taking it easy.

Yours truly,
Franchua D’Souza

Tie a Yellow Ribbon round the old oak (mango) tree

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This weekend we celebrated my Sister’s birthday. It was celebrated with family and close friends, good food, drinks and cake. That’s the way we usually prefer it. I’d prefer a house party/ pajama party any day over late night clubbing. I’m not judgmental about people who prefer it, but that’s not my kind. I’ve informed you about how terrible the heat currently is in Mumbai, so dressing up in this weather isn’t easy for me. I chose a basic mustard yellow top and blue jeans. The top is actually a hand me down, and is now one of my summer favorites. Mom’s necklace added some more color to my look. IMG-20150524-WA0002 IMG-20150524-WA0009 Here in India, it’s the season of mangoes- the weakness of many! Since being spontaneous is fun, I got some mangoes that were around in the house and posed with them specially for this post. The color of mangoes matched my top perfectly.Check the pics, hope you like them. IMG-20150524-WA0010 IMG-20150524-WA0008 IMG-20150524-WA0007 Photography credits: Nolasco On a completely different note, did any of you watch the IPL Finals yest?? Mumbai Indians won the tournament in style! It was awesome! I’m so glad I watched a match live this season. Sorry Dhoni and team, better luck next time. You all have a great week ahead!

Lots of love,

Thesilenthummer
Franchua D’Souza

That’s the way it is

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Do you personally know any man who is wonderful and clean at heart, very talented, presents himself just fine, very committed to the things he takes up, religious and dedicated, earns decently well and yet isn’t able to find a partner for marriage? Well, I have a friend who’s facing exactly that issue.

I always thought the path he was on was that by choice, however recently I figured it wasn’t so. I wouldn’t call him old, but let’s put it as he puts it.. He says, most people his age are married years back and have 5 year old kids now. It’s not like he’s never dated or been in relationships before, it’s just that things haven’t worked out and he’s still not found his better half.

After having my little discussion with him, I pondered over a few things. This guy certainly doesn’t deserve this kind of life. And I’m not just saying this because he’s a friend.
One relationship has already been hard on him and facing further rejection is doing no good to his attitude towards life. If I had to list any negatives, I wouldn’t be able to find a single one, of course it’s a different story that he loves annoying me and arguing with me to the point I feel like pulling his hair!! But he really is a super great guy.

If this was someone just plain lazy, non focused, not serious, someone with a care a damn attitude, a womanizer, a gambler, a boozard.. you get the drill..  I would’ve thought the person as non deserving of marriage. However, thinking of his case makes me wonder why is he in this position, it’s somehow unfair.

Anyway, it isn’t like I can offer any advice to him on how to lead his life and find a partner, I ain’t some love guru. The least I can do is pray things go well for him and leave it to destiny. Best wishes are always there!

Celine Dion’s words may provide him with some comfort.

I can read your mind and I know your story
I see what you’re going through
It’s an uphill climb, and I’m feeling sorry
But I know it will come to you

Don’t surrender ’cause you can win
In this thing called love

When you want it the most there’s no easy way out
When you’re ready to go and your heart’s left in doubt
Don’t give up on your faith
Love comes to those who believe it
And that’s the way it is

When you question me for a simple answer
I don’t know what to say, no
But it’s plain to see, if you stick together
You’re gonna find a way, yeah

So don’t surrender ’cause you can win
In this thing called love

When you want it the most there’s no easy way out
When you’re ready to go and your heart’s left in doubt
Don’t give up on your faith
Love comes to those who believe it
And that’s the way it is

Yours Truly,
Thesilenthummer
Franchua D’Souza